We say, “The Fall of Man,” but this can be misleading, since it sounds as though only man was affected. A better title would be “The Fall of Creation” because all of creation was affected.
Life After the Fall
Before banishing Adam and Eve from the Garden of Eden, God outlined what life would be like in a fallen world. The following seven conflicts were replaced the previous peace and harmony:
1. Conflict between man and God
And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden.Genesis 3:8
The intimacy and close fellowship mankind had experienced with God was ruined.
2. Conflict between man and animal
God spoke to the serpent: “I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your seed and her Seed.”Genesis 3:15
This points to the future conflict between the devil and Jesus, the Seed of the woman. But a surface reading also reveals the enmity and fear that exists between man and reptiles, insects, and other animals, many of which are now threatening and lethal.
3. Conflict between animal and animal
Prior to The Fall there was peace between animals. The wolf, lamb, leopard, goat, calf, and lion dwelt together, and the cow, bear, lion, and ox ate together (Isaiah 11:6-8). Animals were herbivorous, but the harmony that existed between them was destroyed, and they became a threat to each other.
4. Conflict between man and nature
Cursed is the ground for your sake; in toil you shall eat of it all the days of your life. Both thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you.Genesis 3:17b–18
Tending the Garden of Eden was a pleasant, enjoyable experience for Adam and Eve, but now nature poses a terrible threat.
Beyond the sheer labor needed to survive, millions have lost homes and lives in earthquakes, tsunamis, volcanoes, floods, and other natural disasters. This is why:
- Paul described creation itself longing to be redeemed, struggling under the weight of sin (Romans 8:19-22).
- Jesus rebuked a storm: “He arose and rebuked the wind and the raging of the water” (Luke 8:24). Rebuking a storm makes sense only when considering the way creation was affected by sin, and put in subjection to the devil (John 12:31, 14:30, 16:11; Ephesians 2:2; 2 Corinthians 4:4; 1 John 5:19).
5. Conflict between man and man
Cain talked with Abel his brother; and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother and killed him.Genesis 4:8
Since Adam’s firstborn, Cain, killed his brother, there have been millions of people destroyed by wars, murder, or some other form of violence.
6. Conflict with death
In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for dust you are, and to dust you shall return.Genesis 3:19
The worst conflict introduced by the Fall is death. 1 Corinthians 15:26 calls death mankind’s last enemy, whose defeat will come only when Jesus Christ returns to end sin’s curse and place all things under His rule.
The destruction of death is one part of Christ’s redemption. Isaiah 2:4 says men will turn their weapons into agricultural tools, describing the peace that will be created by Christ’s redemption.
Just as sin affected all aspects of creation, so too will Christ’s redemption affect all aspects of redemption. Jesus will reverse the affects of The Fall, destroying all of sin’s curse. The conflicts will be gone, and perfect peace and harmony will again exist.
7. Conflict between husband and wife
If the Fall hadn’t taken place, there would be perfect harmony and oneness between husbands and wives. As a result of the Fall, there is pain, conflict, and struggle.
The Fall took place when Satan attacked Adam’s headship:
Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said to the woman, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’?”Genesis 3:1-4
And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die.’”
Then the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die.”
There’s an important contrast between the creation account in Genesis 2 and The Fall in Genesis 3:
- In Genesis 2:16, “the Lord God commanded the man.”
- In Genesis 3:1 and 4, “[the serpent] said to the woman.”
God spoke to Adam, but Satan spoke to Eve. Why? Satan knew Eve was “the weaker vessel” (1 Peter 3:7). Part of the reason God placed Eve under Adam’s headship was for her own protection.
To learn more about the temptations facing husbands and wives as a result of The Fall, watch this message I deliver at Marriage God’s Way Conferences…
The Choices Adam and Eve Faced at The Fall
When Satan tempted Eve, she had two choices:
- She could trust her husband who had given her God’s command, thereby submitting to him.
- She could trust the Satan, submitting instead to him.
So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate.Genesis 3:6
At this point, Adam also had two choices:
- He could obey God who gave him the command, thereby submitting to Him.
- He could obey his wife, submitting instead to her.
Adam chose to obey his wife instead of obeying God. The outcome of that decision:
Then the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, “Where are you?”Genesis 3:9-12
So he said, “I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.”
And He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?”
Then the man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.”
It’s significant that the conversation about The Fall took place between God and Adam. God didn’t address Eve until Genesis 3:16 when He explained how sin’s curse would affect women.
Who was Blamed for The Fall?
God went to Adam, instead of Adam and Eve, because—as the New Testament reveals—He held him more responsible for The Fall:
- Romans 5:12–19—Through one man sin entered the world . . . death reigned from Adam . . . the transgression of Adam . . . by the one man’s offense many died . . . by one man’s offense death reigned . . . through one man’s offense judgment came . . . by one man’s disobedience.
- 1 Corinthians 15:21–22—By man came death . . . In Adam all die.
Since Eve sinned first, we would expect to read that sin and death entered the world through her, but God placed the blame squarely on Adam’s shoulders. Why? As recipient of God’s command and head of the relationship, Adam had higher accountability. So how does all this apply to husbands and wives?
- Wives should consider how poorly it went for Eve when she stepped out from under Adam’s headship. While staying under a husband’s headship is no guarantee everything will go perfectly, wives can be encouraged that this is God’s plan for their own best interests and safety. By staying under their husbands’ headship, wives are placing themselves in positions for God to work through and bless their obedience.
- Husbands note that even though Eve made the initial wrong choice, the sobering fact is that God still held Adam responsible! This should serve as a warning to all husbands regarding the accountability that is on our shoulders. When God confronted Adam, he tried to blame Eve (Genesis 3:12). But it did not work for Adam, and it does not work today for husbands to blame their wives. As God-appointed heads of the relationship, husbands will be held responsible for what takes place in our marriages and in our homes.
Two Instructive Examples…
Along with Adam and Eve, there are two other couples in Scripture with husbands giving in to the temptation to submit to their wives…
Abraham and Sarah
God promised Abraham he would be the father of a nation (Genesis 12:2). Abraham and Sarah could hardly have expected decades to pass before God fulfilled His promise. Because of the long wait, Sarah succumbed to unbelief and a desire to control her husband:
Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. And she had an Egyptian maidservant whose name was Hagar. So Sarai said to Abram, “See now, the Lord has restrained me from bearing children. Please, go in to my maid; perhaps I shall obtain children by her.” And Abram heeded the voice of Sarai.Genesis 16:1-2
These words might sound familiar:
- Genesis 3:17a—God said to Adam, “Because you heeded (shama) the voice (qowl) of your wife.”
- Genesis 16:2b—And Abram heeded (shama) the voice (qowl) of Sarai.
Abraham faced the same two choices Adam faced: obey God or obey his wife. Sarah usurped Abraham’s authority. Abraham submitted to Sarah instead of leading as God commanded. The consequence was conflict between Hagar’s son Ishmael and Abraham’s God-designated heir, Isaac—a conflict that continued between their descendants and plagues our planet to this very day.
Ahab and Jezebel
Ahab was an evil, spineless king of Israel. His wife, Jezebel, was an evil and tyrannical queen who imposed Baal worship on the people. He wanted a vineyard that belonged to a godly man named Naboth. Even though Ahab offered Naboth a substantial amount of money and a better vineyard, Naboth declined (1 Kings 21:3).
This sent Ahab home pouting. When he told Jezebel what was wrong, she had an immediate solution: “You now exercise authority over Israel! Arise, eat food, and let your heart be cheerful; I will give you the vineyard of Naboth the Jezreelite” (1 Kings 21:7). Tragically, Jezebel had Naboth murdered. When Jezebel informed Ahab of her success, he jumped into his chariot and headed gleefully off to take possession of his new property (1 Kings 21:8–15).
Since Jezebel had Naboth murdered, would God hold Ahab responsible? We find the answer when the prophet Elijah caught up to Ahab at Naboth’s vineyard: “Thus says the Lord: ‘Have you murdered and also taken possession? In the place where dogs licked the blood of Naboth, dogs shall lick your blood, even yours’” (1 Kings 21:19). God held Ahab responsible for Naboth’s murder, just as God held Adam responsible for eating from the Tree.
A Wife “Stirs Up” Her Husband
Ahab and Jezebel’s marriage is summarized in 1 Kings 21:25: “There was no one like Ahab who sold himself to do wickedness in the sight of the Lord, because Jezebel his wife stirred him up.” This summary should be sobering to husbands and wives:
- Jezebel shows wives the great influence they can be in their husbands’ lives. Women can follow her example, or they can stir up their husbands to do good. A wife stirs up her husband to do evil when she:
- Feeds his anger toward someone
- Discourages him from doing right
- Allows him to feel comfortable compromising
- Husbands should notice that though Jezebel influenced Ahab to wickedness, God still held Ahab responsible for yielding to his wife. Whether it is Adam, Abraham, or Ahab, God appointed men to lead, and they cannot turn around and say, “My wife made me do it.” God is going to hold men responsible for what happens in their marriages.
Reversing the Effects of the Fall
Husbands and wives were designed to be lifelong companions, but now sinful natures are at work, trying to destroy what God has joined together. Sin has turned God’s ordained roles into struggles of pride, selfishness, and self-will. How can a marriage survive this kind of conflict?
The good news is that we have been given a recipe for reversing the effects of The Fall, and it’s in the commands God has given us in His Word:
- God’s commands can take harsh or passive men and make them loving, godly leaders.
- God’s commands can take controlling, manipulative women, and make them gentle and respectful.
Applying God’s commands allows couples to enjoy marriage as God intended before The Fall. The result will be relationships characterized by love, joy, and peace.
- Consider the two choices Adam faced when Eve offered him the fruit. What would a present day example of this look like for you?
- Think of a time your wife did not trust you. What were the consequences? How did it make you feel?
- Describe a time your wife “stirred [you] up”:
- To do good.
- To do evil, and looking back, how do you wish your wife would have handled the situation? How do you wish you would have handled the situation?
- Consider the two choices Eve faced when Satan tempted her. What would a present day example of this look like for you?
- Think of a time you did not trust your husband. How did you feel? What were the consequences?
- Describe a time you “stirred up” your husband:
- To do good.
- To do evil, and looking back, how do you wish you would have handled the situation?
- After The Fall, what was the significance of God addressing Adam, rather than Adam and Eve?
- How did reading this chapter show you the impact a wife’s influence can have over her husband?
- What effects of the fall do you see most clearly in your marriage?
- What commands from Scripture would allow you to reverse these effects in your marriage?