There are thousands of marriage books, so why another one? Here are the three reasons I wrote Marriage God’s Way!
Marriage God’s Way isn’t about people trusting me!
I recognize this isn’t a “reason” I wrote Marriage God’s Way, but it does answer an important question—why should you trust me to write a marriage book? I would never encourage people to trust what I have to say about marriage. Marriage God’s Way isn’t a collection of my thoughts about God’s first institution. Rather, I’m trying to get readers to trust what God says about marriage. He’s the author of it. He designed the roles and responsibilities for husbands and wives. He knows what a couple needs to have “a healthy, joyful, Christ-centered relationship.” And He provided a recipe for that in His Word. My desire was to present that recipe clearly and biblically.
First, I wrote Marriage God’s Way, because I’m passionate about marriage
I’m passionate about this area of Scripture and life. God designed the family as the primary unit for every other segment in society, including the church. And marriage is the heart of the family. As marriages disintegrate, families disintegrates. When families disintegrate, churches disintegrate. As churches disintegrate, society disintegrates.
When marriages are strong, however, families are strong. When families are strong, churches can be strong because strong churches are made up of strong families. As a pastor, I have seen many struggling marriages, but I have also seen couples find the solutions to their problems in Scripture. The truth of God’s Word has the power to heal and strengthen any marriage.
Second, I wrote Marriage God’s Way, because of the evangelistic potential
Although Marriage God’s Way contains the Gospel and I do hope some come to salvation through reading it, that’s not what I mean. The marriage relationship is a picture of Christ and His relationship to the church, it is one of the greatest evangelistic tools we have for sharing the Gospel. Godly marriages have the potential to reveal Christ to an unbelieving world. When people see a husband and wife obeying the commands in Scripture they’re seeing something that looks different than the surrounding world. This has great potential to draw people to the Lord.
Third, I wrote Marriage God’s Way, because of my experiences as a husband
I have experienced firsthand the blessings that come from obeying God’s Word and the negative consequences that come with disobedience. My wife, Katie, and I grew up in the same small town (McArthur, California) and went to school together. We both became Christians in our twenties, and soon after were married.
At times the stresses of being a husband, a father of six, and a senior pastor (a role that alone could keep me busy from the moment I get up to the moment I go to bed) have put a huge amount of pressure on our marriage. In Marriage God’s Way, I share some of our personal struggles. When I ask readers to trust that God’s Word provides a recipe for healthy, joyful marriages, I do so because I have experienced this truth in my own marriage.