Strong Christian men spiritually protect their home from the enemies that seek to destroy their wife and children, such as the world, the devil, and the flesh. In Matthew 12:29 Jesus said, “How can one enter a strong man’s house and plunder his goods, unless he first binds the strong man? And then he will plunder his house.” The entire house is protected by the strong man. The house rises or falls based on him. Strong men protect their families by deciding what enter, and avoiding being bound by sin. Spiritually strong men protect their houses (families) from the devil plundering their goods (wife and children) by putting Jesus Christ first, because He has the victory over the devil.
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Table of Contents
- Lessons for Strong Christian Men Protect Their Home from Spiritual Enemies
- Family Worship Guide for Strong Christian Men Protect Their Home from Spiritual Enemies
- Message Notes for for Strong Christian Men Protect Their Home from Spiritual Enemies
Lessons for Strong Christian Men Protect Their Home from Spiritual Enemies
- Lesson 1: Strong men protect their ____________ _____________________ (Matt 12:29).
- Lesson 2: Strong men decide ________ ____________ their homes.
- Lesson 3: Strong men prevent their families from __________ __________________ (John 10:10; 1 Peter 5:8).
- Lesson 4: Strong men are ______ __________ (Matthew 12:22; Ephesians 6:4; 1 Corinthians 13:11; 2 Corinthians 10:4; Ephesians 6:12).
- Lesson 5: Strong men often have ______________________ __________ (Ephesians 5:33; 1 Peter 3:1).
- Lesson 6: Strong men put ____________ __________ (Colossians 2:15; Hebrews 2:14; 1 John 3:8).
Family Worship Guide for Strong Christian Men Protect Their Home from Spiritual Enemies
- Day 1: Men, read Eph. 5:25 & 1 Pet. 3:7. If married, consider which ways you are uniting your household; consider which ways you are dividing your household. Discuss with your wife.
- Women, read Eph. 5:22, 33b, & 1 Pet. 3:1 If married, consider which ways you are uniting your household; consider which ways you are dividing your household. Discuss with your husband.
- Parents & children read together Eph. 6:1, 4 and ask: In what ways (regarding our parenting of you) are we uniting our household? In what ways are we dividing our household?
- Singles: Consider how you could learn from married couples the ways they are intentionally uniting their households.
- Married Couples: Consider periodically inviting singles into your home for the purpose of discussing these issues with them and being an example for them.
- Day 2: Read Ephesians 4:25-32 Discuss the commands in this passage with your family. How can these commands change the way you communicate with each other? In v.31, what things must be ‘put-off’? In v.32, what things must be ‘put-on’?
- Day 3: Read Matthew 8:14-17 and Genesis 1. How is Jesus’s power to cast out demons like God’s power to create all things? What do they use in order to cast out demons and to create all things? What does this teach about God’s power? How should this knowledge of God shape our prayers?
- Suggestions for prayer:
- Your elders: those who lead, feed, and care for the flock, and their families (Col 4:3; 2 Thes 3:1).
- Church members in need (1 Tim 2:1; Eph 6:18; Col 1:9).
- “Kings” and those in authority: President Trump, Vice President Pence, Governor Inslee (1 Tim 2:2).
- The spread of the Gospel: Missionaries and unreached people groups (Matt 9:37-38).
Message Notes for for Strong Christian Men Protect Their Home from Spiritual Enemies
This short parable will be the focus of our message.
Matthew 12:29 Or how can one enter a strong man’s house and plunder his goods, unless he first binds the strong man? And then he will plunder his house.
In the verse…
- Satan is the strong man.
- The strong man’s house is Satan’s kingdom.
- The strong man’s goods are everyone who’s part of Satan’s kingdom, which means all unbelievers.
Physically there are lots of different kingdoms, but spiritually there are only two, and everyone is part of one or the other:
- There’s the Kingdom of God,which every believer is part of.
- There’s the kingdom of Satan, which every unbeliever is part of.
The words plunder his goods describe what happens every time someone is saved. Jesus takes someone from Satan’s kingdom and makes them part of His kingdom
Jesus said [nobody] can enter [the] strong man’s house and plunder his goods unless he first binds the strong man.
If someone tries to enter the strong man’s house, the strong man is going to try to stop him. The only way he could plunder the strong man’s goods is if he’s stronger than the strong man.
Every time Jesus saves someone, He demonstrates how much stronger He is than Satan.
What I’d like to do is consider the application for our families, and this brings us to Lesson 1…
Lesson 1: strong men protect their houses spiritually.
Verse 29 is a profound verse that is packed w/ instruction for us, so we’re going to look at it piece-by-piece.
First, look at the words strong man’s house.
- The entire house is protected by this man.
- The house rises or falls based on him.
Do you see the application for us?
- Men are the protectors of their houses
- Our houses rise or fall based on us
This is why it’s so important for men to be strong!
But let’s be clear about the kind of strength needed. Is it physical or spiritual?
Let me ask all the women in here a question…
“Would you rather have a man who’s physically strong or spiritually strong?”
And all the women said, “Both” 😊.
Women want spiritually strong men.
We all know submission gets criticized:
- Nobody criticizes the command for husbands to love their wives
- But submission is criticized in the world and unfortunately it’s even criticized in some liberal churches.
I’ve been a pastor for 12 years now, and each year I put on a few marriage conferences. This keeps me in touch w/ quite a few couples.
Since submission receives so much criticism, you’d think the biggest complaint I’d hear from women would be:
- My husband wants me to submit and I hate it.
- I can’t handle this whole submission thing.
But that’s not the complaint I hear most often.
The complaint I hear most often is actually the opposite: “My husband won’t lead.”
Women want men who are spiritually strong, b/c they know if their husbands are spiritually weak their homes will be unprotected.
If we want to be spiritually strong men, it has similarities to being physically strong men:
- If we want to be physically strong we must nourish ourselves well, and if we want to be spiritually strong we must nourish ourselves well – we need to consume spiritual food – and that’s God’s Word.
- We need to exercise w/ the spiritual disciplines:
- Reading the Word
- Memorizing Scripture
- Meditating on the Word
- Service and being involved in the body of Christ
We want to remember…
Men can be great fathers and husbands in the world’s eyes, but be poor fathers and husbands in God’s eyes.
Imagine a man who does many wonderful things for his family…
- He works hard to provide for them…
- He loves them and serves them…
- He takes them on trips…
- He attends his children’s events…
He probably looks like a great father in the world’s eyes, but:
- If he’s not leading his family spiritually, how does He look in God’s eyes?
- If he’s not protecting his family spiritually, despite all the good things he might be doing, he’s not doing the most important thing God wants.
Most men will work hard to care for their families physically and financially – at least in the time I’ve been a pastor I’ve rarely seen men fail in this regard – but as husbands are we working as hard caring for our families spiritually?
Consider this terrible situation…
If you have men who take care of their families physically and financially, but not spiritually, you’re going to have Christian homes that don’t look any different than the homes of unbelievers.
Aside from giving up Sunday morning to worship the Lord w/ their church families – and there are some Christian families who don’t even do that consistently – for the other 6 days of the week, the Christian home won’t look different than the non-Christian home.
Next, look at the word enter…
Jesus said, “Or how can one enter a strong man’s house…”
And this brings us to Lesson 2…
Lesson 2: strong men decide what enters their homes.
As the protectors of our homes we need to decide what does and doesn’t enter them.
While I’m not going to be too specific, I will say there are definitely…
- Some movies that shouldn’t enter our homes…
- Some music that shouldn’t enter our homes…
- Some clothing that shouldn’t enter our homes…
- Some jokes or language that shouldn’t enter our homes…
- Some activities that shouldn’t enter our homes…
Strong men are the ones who keep out anything that would be detrimental to their homes.
And when something that is worldly or unholy does enter the house strong men make sure it’s removed.
Third, notice the words plunder his goods.
And this brings us to Lesson 3…
Lesson 3: strong men prevent their families from being plundered.
Brothers, give me your attention, so I can ask you a question…
Are there goods in our homes that we need to protect?
Our wives and children!
- We need to make sure they aren’t plundered.
- We need to remember when we let certain things enter our homes we’re making our wives and children vulnerable.
Strong men protect their families so they aren’t plundered by:
- The world
Next, notice the words unless he first binds the strong man, and particularly notice it says “HE.”
We’re talking about an individual.
Every man needs to know there’s an enemy that wants to enter his house, bind him, and plunder his goods.
That enemy is the devil:
- In John 10:10 Jesus said, “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy.” Satan would love nothing more than to enter our homes and steal, kill, and destroy our marriages, wives, and children.
- We need to fight for them.
- We need to protect them.
- This is what strong men do.
- 1 Peter 5:8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.
- Who’s Peter talking to when he says this? Believers or unbelievers? He’s talking to believers! He says we need to recognize there’s an adversary – or enemy – that wants to devour us.
- Men need to recognize the devil would love nothing more than to spiritually devour their wives and children.
Fifth, in verse 29 notice the words first and then. There’s a progression. There’s something that must happen before something else can happen…
It says how can one enter a strong man’s house and plunder his goods, unless he FIRST binds the strong man? And THEN he can plunder his house.
The enemy wants to bind men so he can then plunder our families.
If we’re bound, our families are defenseless…and this brings us to Lesson 4…
Lesson 4: strong men are not bound.
Bound by what? Bound by sin!
Yesterday at our church leaders’ meeting Pastor Cary shared about the danger of pornography and how it’s binding pastors and destroying their effectiveness.
Bound men can’t serve their churches and they can’t protect their families.
Strong men make sure they’re not bound.
Let’s think about the word binds, or some translations say tied up.
What imagery does this create?
You’ve got someone:
- Who’s helpless…
- Who’s unable to do anything…
- Who’s incapacitated.
Briefly look back at verse 22 to see a picture of him doing this w/ a man…
Matthew 12:22 Then one was brought to Him who was demon-possessed, BLIND AND MUTE; and He healed him, so that the blind and mute man both SPOKE AND SAW.
The devil made the man blind and mute, but Jesus allowed him to speak and see.
One of the biggest mistakes people make w/ God’s Word is they take what’s physical, but they don’t apply it spiritually.
The only way to correctly understand most of Jesus’ ministry is to understand what He did physically is a picture of what He wants to do for us spiritually.
Let me say that one more time…
The only way to correctly understand most of Jesus’ ministry is to understand what He did physically is a picture of what He wants to do for us spiritually.
- When Jesus healed blindness:
- That’s not supposed to make us think He wants to heal every blind person.
- But He wants to heal our spiritual blindness so we can see spiritually.
- When Jesus healed deafness:
- That’s not supposed to make us think He heals every deaf person.
- But He wants to heal our spiritual deafness so we can understand spiritual truths.
- When Jesus healed the paralytic:
- That’s not supposed to make us think He heals every paralyzed person.
- But He wants to heal our spiritual lameness so we can walk w/ God: Rom 6:4 We should walk in newness of life.
- When Jesus raised people from the dead:
- That’s not supposed to make us think He’ll raise us from the dead the moment we die.
- But He has victory over sin and death, and He wants to give us eternal life.
- When Jesus calmed the storm,
- Does this mean He calms every physical storm that takes place?
- No. But He calms the spiritual storms that rage in our hearts…when He gives us the peace that surpasses understanding.
So here’s the point…
In verse 22 it says the demon possessed man was blind and mute.
This is what Satan wants to do – spiritually – to every husband and father…he wants to take away their voice and leadership:
- He wants to make men spiritually blind:
- So they can’t understand spiritual truths
- So they can’t see what’s happening in their homes…
- He wants to make men spiritually mute:
- So they won’t teach their families…
- So they won’t address anything going on in their families…
The theme of this conference is, “Navigating Through Cultural Chaos.”
- Spiritually blind men don’t see what’s happening in the culture.
- Spiritually mute men don’t say anything about what’s happening the culture.
Back in verse 22 it says [Jesus] healed [the man], so that the blind and mute man both SPOKE AND SAW.
This is what Jesus wants to do for men:
- He wants to help us speak…He wants to give us spiritual voices:
- So we can lead in our homes
- So we can preach the Gospel
- So we can speak out against the things happening around us
- He wants to help us see: He wants to give us spiritual sight:
- So we can understand His word
- So we can accurately see what’s going on in the culture
- So we can see what’s happening in our families
There’s one other reason some men are blind and mute – and I hate to say it – but it’s their wives…
Some men might see things, they want to say something, but their wives put a stop to it.
Picture husbands who try to lead, but their wives:
- Question EVERY decision
- Second-guess EVERYTHING
- Offer all the reasons their husband is wrong.
- Constantly correct him
- Chop him off at the knees when he says something.
These women silence their husbands, b/c their actions scream:
- I don’t trust you.
- You don’t know what you’re doing.
- I could do this better.
- Why are you doing it that way?
- What were you thinking?
- Didn’t I tell you to do this instead?
- Did you really think that was going to work?
- Our kids shouldn’t respect you or listen to you
These women have made their husbands blind and mute.
If God wants men to be leaders and protectors of their homes, we can be sure the devil is going to try to bind them to prevent that from happening.
What does this look like?
It looks like:
- Making men passive…
- Making them spiritually lazy…
What does this look like practically?
- A man comes home from work, and how does he feel? He’s tired!
- Satan tempts him to sit on the couch, ignore his wife, and neglect his children.
- Satan tempts him NOT to deal with the issues around him.
- Satan tempts him to hope these problems go away on their own.
- Satan tempts a man by filling his head w/ any number of things that seem more important than his family.
- Satan tempts him to find anything to do OTHER THAN…
- Praying w/ his family…
- Reading the Word as a family…
- Discussing spiritual issues as a family…
This is how Satan binds men.
Ephesians 6:4 fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
I know we have a lot of homeschool mothers, and that’s wonderful, but we can’t get away from the fact that God has put the spiritual instruction on the father’s shoulders!
When men neglect this responsibility they’re allowing Satan to bind them and plunder their families.
But here’s the worst situation of all…
Some men bind themselves!
Men do this when…
- They invite sin into their lives, such as lying or drunkenness…
- They give in to anger; when they yell at their wife or children…
- They develop addictions: it could be pornography or video games or any activities that distract us from leading our families.
These are all ways men bind themselves.
Sometimes men bind themselves – not necessarily w/ sinful things – but w/ childish things. Listen to this verse…
1 Corinthians 13:11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
Paul says pretty clearly that men put away childish things. What are childish things?
I’m not going to pry into your homes too much and answer that question, but I will say this: if it causes your wife to lose respect for you, it’s a childish thing you should put away.
I know in our home if I played video games Katie would have trouble respecting me. Since few things are worth more than my wife’s respect, in our home we aren’t going to have any video games. Maybe it’s something different in your home.
Most men do great jobs protecting their families physically. They’ll tell you…
“If someone broke into my house I would tell my family to hide and I would put myself in harm’s way so my wife and children could be safe.”
But let’s be honest:
- How many physical intruders will ever break into our homes?
- How many times will we ever have to stand between our families and someone physically threatening them?
More than likely it will never happen.
But let me ask you this…
What kind of enemy does want to break into our homes and attack our families?
- Not a physical one!
- Spiritual ones: the devil and the world…the cultural chaos we’re discussing.
- And how often can this happen? Every day.
So how many times will we have to spiritually protect our families? Every day.
The devil is an infinitely greater threat to our families than any physical intruder…
Gentlemen are you willing to protect your family from the devil?
Spiritual protection is needed infinitely more than physical protection.
You’ll see men invest in alarms, they’ll purchase guns to protect their homes – and that’s great – but men should be investing even more time and energy into spiritually protecting their families:
- 2 Corinthians 10:4 The weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds.
- Ephesians 6:12 We do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.
Paul says the real battle we’re fighting isn’t physical: it’s spiritual.
We’ve been addressing the men, but I’d like the women to see the part they play in this…and this brings us to Lesson 5…
Lesson 5: strong men often have encouraging wives.
Ladies, can I address you directly…will you raise your hand if your husband is here?
If you haven’t already thanked him for bringing you here, you need to!
We’re talking about husbands protecting their homes, and your husband wanted to protect his family from the cultural chaos so he came here.
- There are lots of other places he could be.
- There are lots of husbands who aren’t here w/ their wives.
Also ladies let me share something w/ you that I’ve learned, that you might not be aware of…
Many men want to be strong spiritual leaders and read the word w/ their families…but they’re afraid:
- They’re afraid they won’t know what to pray
- They’re afraid they won’t know how to answer the questions that are asked
- They’re afraid they won’t sound like their pastor or that guy on the radio
Your husband needs your encouragement!
- Let him know how much you appreciate what he’s doing
- Tell him how much you respect him
- Tell him you respect you’re in the 0.00000001% of wives who have a husband who will read the Word and pray w/ his family.
If you say things like:
- Do we have to do this now?
- How long is this going to take?
- Can we do this later?
- The kids are too tired; let’s skip tonight.
Please hear me clearly when I say…
You are binding your husband for Satan!
Most men have no problem living up or down to the bar their wives set for them:
- If you disrespect your husband and treat him like he’s a child, he’ll have no problem living down to that bar
- If you respect your husband and look up to him, he’ll try to live up to that bar
Now I want to invite you to consider something…
Even though we’ve been talking about men protecting their families from Satan, it’s interesting to consider Scripture never calls us to fight Satan, or any demons for that matter. You’d think if Satan is trying to destroy our homes and men are the protectors, we’d see all these verses about men defeating Satan.
In some ultra-charismatic circles they act like God has called Christians to fight the demonic realm, but you won’t see that in the Bible. None of the epistles contain any instructions for performing exorcisms!
Do you know why men are not called to defeat Satan?
Jesus already defeated him!
- Colossians 2:15 [Christ] disarmed principalities and powers, He made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them.
- Hebrews 2:14 [Jesus will] destroy him who had the power of death, that is, the devil.
- 1 John 3:8b The Son of God was manifested, that He might destroy the works of the devil.
Even when people cast out demons in the Gospels and Acts, how did they do it?
They didn’t roll up their sleeves, summon all their strength, and defeat him in their own effort. They called on Christ:
- Matthew 7:22 Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, CAST OUT DEMONS IN YOUR NAME…’
- Luke 9:49 John said, “Master, we saw someone casting out demons IN YOUR NAME.”
- Luke 10:17 The seventy returned with joy, saying, “Lord, even the demons are subject to us IN YOUR NAME.”
- Acts 19:13 Jewish exorcists took it upon themselves to CALL THE NAME OF THE LORD JESUS over those who had evil spirits.
When people had victories over Satan’s kingdom they experienced them by relying on Christ…and this brings us to lesson 6…
Lesson 6: strong men put christ first.
Jesus had the victory over Satan and that means if we want victory over Satan, we put Christ first in our homes.
I took this parable in Matthew 12:29 and drew some application from it for men, but:
- The parable is not primarily about men protecting their homes
- The parable is primarily about Jesus being stronger than the devil
So to be perfectly clear…
- This isn’t a sermon to encourage men to take on Satan…
- This isn’t a sermon to motivate men to protect their families by fighting the demonic realm …
This is a sermon to encourage men to protect their families by putting Christ first.
Husbands, put your family first:
- By praying w/ them…
- Reading the Word w/ them…
- Having them be active members of a local church
If we want the cultural chaos to stay outside our homes…we keep it out by putting Christ first.
If you have any questions about anything I’ve shared, or I can pray for you in any way, I have a booth at the back where I’ll be throughout the conference, and I’d consider it a privilege to speak w/ you.